Unloved Wife

[Olivia Amrstead]

Being a unloved wife can and has pyscological effects, such as feeling like something is wrong with you, questioning your exsistance, not feeling human anymore.feelings of loneliness with the only glimpse of affection is when having sex. no hugs, no romance , no affections, when feelings and concerns are expressed, the response is hard and cold with comments /threats of divorce...with a childlike reaction of him sleeping on the couch after the brief discussion. I begin to question my love for him , I continue to do my wifee duties, cook , clean and remain calm not to spark his anger....How long can this continue , what biblical principals can support this ? please help.

[In His Image Ministries]

Olivia,
It can at times be difficult to provide an answer concerning relationship issues, because only God and the two people in the relationship know all the details of what has occurred in the relationship. But we can look to biblical principles as you have requested. I believe the steps you are taking to continue in your wifely duties is extremely wise. I want to encourage you to continue to do so, even though I know under the circumstances that it is extremely difficult. Ecclesiastes 4:12 informs us that a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Making God the head of your marriage is what makes it a threefold cord (God, your husband, and yourself). Don't give up hope; give the situation over to God. From what you have stated, it is you and God that are holding your marriage together at the moment. Trust in Him to pull it back together.

We cannot control what anyone else does, but we can control our own conduct (1 Peter 3:1). It is important that we as wives do what God would want us to do in each situation we deal with in our marriage instead of following the emotions and actions of the other person. Our best approach is one of loving service and showing our husbands through our actions the kind of self-giving sacrificial love that Christ showed the church (Ephesians 5:2). At the very least, you will have given your all to the relationship and know there is nothing further you could have done....and be able to be at peace with yourself and with God. At the best, your husband will be influenced by the God in you, begin to change his attitude and behavior toward you, and learn to love you as God commands him to (Ephesians 5:25, 28-29).

Remember to taking loving care of you, as you continue to care for your mate. Keep your marriage and your husband uplifted in prayer, and let your life speak loudly and clearly about your faith in God and love for your husband. It is the most effective way to influence your husband. Demonstrate your inner beauty to your husband and all those you come in contact with during this season in your life. As you are obedient to God, he will order your steps, light your path, and bring you through this situation. God will empower you to handle whatever your future holds. Below I have listed some scriptures for you to read and meditate on. Let God lead you through this time in your life. I am praying for you and your husband. God is able!

Much love and many blessings to you,
Marla

Scriptures for Meditation if you are having marital problems:

(Remember, you can only control you)
Ephesians 4:31,32
Genesis 2:18
Genesis 2:24
Ephesians 5:21-33
1 Peter 3:1-7
Joshua 24:15
Romans 13:10
Psalm 101:2
1 Peter 3:8-11
Proverbs 3:5,6
Proverbs 10:12
1 Peter 1:22

[Olivia Amrstead]

Thank you so much sis in christ. I love you for what you wrote and I appreciate sister helping because its hard and I have alot of women that come to me for advice it's unfortunate I can't go to them. people are funny like that , they want to be close to you , but can't handle your battle wounds. But God knows and yes I will continue in christ and read the scriptures you sent me , Thank you once again , you don't know how soothing and comforting just reading this has been. God bless you.

[In His Image Ministries]

You are very welcome : ) God bless you too!!